As a guy looking to get into the swinging lifestyle, you may have heard good things about it, or read them in a magazine and thought that it would be the ideal way to get a little bit of no-strings attached fun. It is worth stopping you right there and giving you a few helpful words of advice, before you walk straight into what could quickly become a very hostile world for a single male.

Firstly, arrogance is not an attractive quality. Therefore, whether it is at a party, or long before that on signing up for a swingers’ site, think about how you put yourself across. If you are planning an ad that goes something like this: “Guy X, single male from Y – I am 6’ 4 tall, play rugby and I’ve got plenty downstairs if you know what I mean!

Then do not bother. You have an opportunity to put yourself across in words here, so do not waste it on the kind of rubbish they will have read a hundred times before. Have you ever heard it said that if you have to tell people something, it probably isn’t true? That definitely applies to penis size. Go around telling people that you are packed and they will believe the opposite. Everyone – and I mean everyone – will think of you as the arrogant guy with the small penis.